College and Career Ministry: Cultivating Community

This past Sunday, about 35 people from the College and Career group gathered in the Coffee House for a perfect lunch for a hot afternoon: grilled bbq chicken, pasta salad and watermelon.

As a response to many of the singles in the church voicing a desire for more community, Rick is spending the summer talking about the topic and, this Sunday, gave a practical talk on "How to Cultivate Community."

After noting that our church-wide Community Groups are designed specifically for this purpose and encouraging each person to join one, Rick gave some specific advice on how one can grow in cultivating community by reaching out and being more "other focused."

Here are a few of his points:

1. Build Rapport with People

  • Be warm and friendly.  
  • Be interested not interesting.  
  • We have two ears and one mouth for a reason.
  • Ask questions.
  • If you do not share an interest with someone, try to learn why they are interested in it.
  • Be open minded.
  • When meeting new people it is important to try to understand how they see things so you can find middle ground.
  • Listen.
  • Try to really hear what they are saying.
  • Pause before responding.
  • Ask questions for clarity.

2. Take Initiative

  • Invite a friend or two to join a Bible Study
  • Offer to connect with someone over coffee.
  • Reach out to people when you think they need it.
  • Offer to pray for and with someone.
  • Don’t wait for help when you need it, ask.
  • Ask for prayer.
  • Be a good communicator.
  • Follow up with people.
  • Try to be clear and specific.
  • Be responsible.
  • Be a person of your word.
  • Be on time.
  • Be kind!

If you missed the meeting, ask Rick for his outline - it has many more details - AND -check out the LINK to find a community group that you can join!